Shayden Bertagnolli2 minHow Shame Destroys ConnectionPut simply, guilt is knowing what what we did was bad...shame is when we believe we are bad because what we did was bad. Shame is sick....
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minHow do I stay connected with family while traveling?This question is a difficult one in some ways. The principle of intentionality comes to mind. This means being intentional about the...
Shayden Bertagnolli4 min3 Reasons You Should Look at Your Marital Relationship if Your Teen is StrugglingAs many of you know, here at Motyv, I focus on helping all ages and people with three things...anxiety/depression/anger, relationship...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minAre You Moving or Waiting..."Mr. Shayden, I am so tired of being tired...I don't know what to do...and I feel like I'll never figure it out," said a recently widowed...
Shayden Bertagnolli3 minGetting To Know OneselfThis last week, I had a conversation with a couple women who were struggling badly with depression and self-esteem. They each brought up...
Shayden Bertagnolli3 minWhy It's So Important to Soothe a Child's HeartI have had quite a few parents email questions about parenting and I thought I would elaborate on a principle I feel is useful for every...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 min"Why do you care who I am?"I had a moment this week that took me by surprise. An individual had been in prison multiple times, shot at, stabbed, abused, neglected,...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minWhat's In Your Bucket?It's interesting to me how powerful themes continue to arise, even when talking with many different people. This last week has brought...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minPain - Acceptance = SufferingWhy do we suffer? Why do we have pain? Is there a difference? Everyday I experience my own suffering, as well as listen to the sufferings...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minJustice versus MercyThis is going to be more of my own need to just vent for a little bit, so if it's confusing, it's not your fault. It starts with a...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minThe Gift Received by Giving It...This week was an interesting week for me. I feel like there were a lot of small lessons learned, but the one that really stuck was...
Shayden Bertagnolli3 minReal Men Do Look At PornIn my profession as a marriage and family therapist, my experience has told me that insight isn't worth a lick. In other words, if...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minWhat we really mean when we say "I'll think about it." Over the past couple weeks a theme has come and returned over and over again with the people I work with. Before I get into it, let me...
Shayden Bertagnolli3 minThe Question I Ask All School Teachers...You just got done with back to school night, you met Ms. Donakey, and she seems very nice. You are excited your child is in good hands,...
Shayden Bertagnolli4 minThe Parable of the TreeHave you ever thought about the intelligence of a tree? Or are you now wondering about my own intelligence for asking such a weird...
Shayden Bertagnolli4 minGuest Post: Suffering With DepressionI want to thank my good friend for being willing to write this post for all of us to learn from. He has struggled with depression and has...
Shayden Bertagnolli3 minChange + Experience + Learning = LifeThe topic of change has been on my mind for quite some time. As the cliche' saying goes, change truly is the only constant. I was driving...
Shayden Bertagnolli2 minPleasure versus GratificationWow, once again it's been a while since I have written. I feel like it's my journal and I look back and think, how has it been so long....
Shayden Bertagnolli3 min10 Questions Parents Need to Ask Their Young 'Teen-Adult' Child...I've been thinking about you for quite some time now. You being the parents of teenagers and young adults, whose lives are beginning to...