How Shame Destroys Connection
Put simply, guilt is knowing what what we did was bad...shame is when we believe we are bad because what we did was bad. Shame is sick....
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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How do I stay connected with family while traveling?
This question is a difficult one in some ways. The principle of intentionality comes to mind. This means being intentional about the...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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3 Reasons You Should Look at Your Marital Relationship if Your Teen is Struggling
As many of you know, here at Motyv, I focus on helping all ages and people with three things...anxiety/depression/anger, relationship...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Are You Moving or Waiting...
"Mr. Shayden, I am so tired of being tired...I don't know what to do...and I feel like I'll never figure it out," said a recently widowed...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Getting To Know Oneself
This last week, I had a conversation with a couple women who were struggling badly with depression and self-esteem. They each brought up...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Why It's So Important to Soothe a Child's Heart
I have had quite a few parents email questions about parenting and I thought I would elaborate on a principle I feel is useful for every...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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"Why do you care who I am?"
I had a moment this week that took me by surprise. An individual had been in prison multiple times, shot at, stabbed, abused, neglected,...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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What's In Your Bucket?
It's interesting to me how powerful themes continue to arise, even when talking with many different people. This last week has brought...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Pain - Acceptance = Suffering
Why do we suffer? Why do we have pain? Is there a difference? Everyday I experience my own suffering, as well as listen to the sufferings...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Justice versus Mercy
This is going to be more of my own need to just vent for a little bit, so if it's confusing, it's not your fault. It starts with a...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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The Gift Received by Giving It...
This week was an interesting week for me. I feel like there were a lot of small lessons learned, but the one that really stuck was...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Real Men Do Look At Porn
In my profession as a marriage and family therapist, my experience has told me that insight isn't worth a lick. In other words, if...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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What we really mean when we say "I'll think about it."
Over the past couple weeks a theme has come and returned over and over again with the people I work with. Before I get into it, let me...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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The Question I Ask All School Teachers...
You just got done with back to school night, you met Ms. Donakey, and she seems very nice. You are excited your child is in good hands,...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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The Parable of the Tree
Have you ever thought about the intelligence of a tree? Or are you now wondering about my own intelligence for asking such a weird...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Guest Post: Suffering With Depression
I want to thank my good friend for being willing to write this post for all of us to learn from. He has struggled with depression and has...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Change + Experience + Learning = Life
The topic of change has been on my mind for quite some time. As the cliche' saying goes, change truly is the only constant. I was driving...
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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Pleasure versus Gratification
Wow, once again it's been a while since I have written. I feel like it's my journal and I look back and think, how has it been so long....
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Shayden Bertagnolli
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10 Questions Parents Need to Ask Their Young 'Teen-Adult' Child...
I've been thinking about you for quite some time now. You being the parents of teenagers and young adults, whose lives are beginning to...
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